What Most Women Don’t Know to Ask
You’ve got a good life.
A stable job. A husband you love. You pray over your future family. You’ve talked about kids — maybe even have names picked out.
But if you’re honest, you’re not quite sure where to go from there. You just don’t know what that preparation should look like. You’ve heard about ovulation calculators and prenatals. You’ve seen people document their TTC journeys online. But there’s a part of you wondering, “Is that really all there is to getting ready for motherhood?”
That quiet curiosity is the true beginning of your preconception journey.
And if no one has told you this yet:
There’s more to preparing for motherhood than getting pregnant.
Let’s talk about the difference between TTC and true preconception and why it matters more than most people realize.
TTC: What Most People Think Pregnancy Prep Is
When most women start trying to conceive (TTC), their focus is simple:
- Track your ovulation
- Time sex or insemination
- Take a prenatal vitamin
- Hope for the best
And let me be clear… that’s not wrong. To me, it’s just incomplete.
TTC tends to zoom in on one thing: getting pregnant. It’s a goal with a timeline. A month-by-month mental checklist. And for many women (including me), it starts to feel like a test they’re failing if it doesn’t happen right away. But real preparation (the kind that actually helps you show up whole and confident through pregnancy, birth, and postpartum) doesn’t begin when you see a positive test. It begins before that.
Preconception: The Work Before Doing the Do
Okay, here’s what most people don’t talk about: Preconception is less about doing all the “right” things, and more about becoming the woman God is calling you to be before motherhood tangibly begins.
This season is special and sacred. Not because it’s something to post about on social media or a box to check, but because it’s where your foundation is laid.
And I’m not just talking about pregnancy… I’m talking about the whole motherhood journey.
The emotional. The spiritual. The physical.
And I know… if you’re like most of the women I work with, this might be the first time you’ve ever heard someone break it down like this.So let me show you what true preconception support actually looks like:
What Preconception Prep Looks Like (Beyond TTC)
- Body literacy:
Learn how your cycle actually works, beyond just the fertile window, so you’re not guessing, stressing, or outsourcing all your decisions. - Emotional clarity:
Work through fears you might not even realize you’ve been carrying about birth, motherhood, or “losing yourself” in the process. - Community and support systems:
Start naming the people you’ll need in your corner. From care providers to postpartum help, you’re making a list of who you need with you – so you’re not scrambling later. - Advocacy through education:
Pregnancy is one of the most vulnerable times in a woman’s life. Knowing your options before you’re in that space is key. So that when decisions have to be made, you don’t freeze. - Faith-centered alignment:
You’ll never be able to bypass the struggle… and that’s not even the goal. This is about leaning into the Lord through the unknown instead of running or rebuking it.
TTC vs. True Preconception: Why It Matters for You
You don’t need to overhaul your life. You don’t need to be perfect. And you definitely don’t need to wait until something goes wrong to ask for support. You deserve to go into motherhood with more than a due date and a baby shower.
You deserve:
- Confidence in your body
- Language for your needs
- Clarity around your choices
- Peace that you’re not doing this alone
True preconception preparation gives you that.
Think of it as the groundwork needed to establish a solid foundation for a building. It’s the deep breath before the birth plan… The space to become a woman who is not just physically ready for pregnancy, but emotionally equipped and spiritually rooted for what comes after.
What We Do at Confident Care Birth Co
If this feels like what you’ve been craving but didn’t have words for – you’re in the right place.
Here’s what we focus on:
- Fertility and cycle education that’s practical and affirming
- Holistic support that includes nutrition, nervous system care, and emotional wellness
- One-on-one coaching that helps you process, prepare, and prioritize YOU
- Spirit-led guidance rooted in faith and freedom, not fear
- Tools to help you build a personal and professional birth team now, not later
I’m telling you, this isn’t a one-size-fits-all checklist. It’s a guided journey tailored to you, with space for your goals, your pace, and your prayers.
Want to Start Preparing Now?
Here are some gentle first steps you can take:
- Start tracking your entire cycle, not just your ovulation date
- Begin a journal with this prompt:
“What version of me do I want my future children to experience?” - Look around and ask:
Who are the people in my life I trust to support me in this next chapter? - And pray this prayer:
“Lord, prepare my heart to hold what I’m asking You for.”
Frequently Asked Questions
Fertility coaching is personalized guidance that helps women and couples prepare for conception. A fertility coach supports you in understanding your cycle, improving lifestyle factors, reducing stress, and aligning emotionally and spiritually with your goals for parenthood.
Nutrition counseling often focuses on meal plans or medical-based recommendations. Nutrition coaching, on the other hand, is more holistic—it not only addresses food but also mindset, habits, and accountability to help you integrate healthy choices into daily life.
Yes, if you want more than just medical advice. A fertility coach provides education, emotional support, and accountability to help you feel empowered during your preconception journey. For many women, that added clarity and confidence is invaluable.
Fertility coaching costs vary depending on experience, services, and whether sessions are one-on-one or part of a program. Prices can range from $100–$250 per session or $500–$2000 for packages.
TTC stands for “trying to conceive.” In women’s health, TTC focuses on understanding your fertility window, optimizing your body for pregnancy, and preparing emotionally for the journey ahead.
Yes—“conception” is the noun (the event of becoming pregnant), while “conceive” is the verb (the action of becoming pregnant).
Experts recommend beginning preconception care at least 3 months before TTC. This includes cycle tracking, optimizing nutrition, taking prenatals, scheduling a preconception checkup, reducing toxins, and supporting your emotional and spiritual well-being.
Improves fertility health and pregnancy outcomes.
Identifies risks and health conditions early.
Supports emotional readiness and mental wellness.
Builds strong lifestyle habits (nutrition, sleep, stress care).
Strengthens confidence and clarity for motherhood.
You Don’t Have to Wait for the Test to Be Positive to Be Prepared
This phase of life… the waiting, the wondering, the becoming – it’s not meaningless. It’s fertile ground for you to sow into.
And when you choose to prepare with intention instead of pressure, you can show up to motherhood differently. You enter it steady, held, and with a sense of wholeness.
If that’s what you want, I’d love to walk with you.
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